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I don’t know how to break bad news.

May 17, 2010

Last weekend turned out a lot differently than anyone had planned.  This is LT, Scott’s Dad.  On Thursday he was at work.  Friday he didn’t feel good and Friday night he went to the hospital.  By Saturday afternoon he was gone.I wish someone would find a better way to break bad news.  There isn’t one.  It’s always sad, and sometimes awkward.  Bad news is a terrible ice breaker, and it’s not a great conversation starter either.  And so  I’m not going to go into details here, it feels weird.

[ Three generations: Grandpa who just turned 95, Scott and his Dad on our wedding day. 2003 ]

I do want to say how thankful I am to have my family close by right now.  I am so thankful for Scott’s family, I couldn’t have hoped to marry into a better group of people.  I am thankful for all those who have showed so much love and concern for us these last few days.   I am thankful for my faith, and prayer, and for the peace that I feel in my heart.  I am so grateful for my sweet husband and the incredible man that he is.  I am grateful that I have my daughter.  She brings such a wonderful sweetness and joy to my life.

I know that there is a reason we are here, and I know that all those trials we have are for a reason.  We learn valuable lessons dealing with all those hard things.  Lessons that can help us throughout our lives to be better people.  Lessons that will help us to  help those around us who are facing similar trials.  Trials give us empathy.   They make us humble.  Trials are a great source of growth.  Trials  force you to realize that you can’t do everything on your own.  We need each other.  I can’t do it all on my own, and I am grateful for the people in my life who lift me up and carry me through those really bad days.  Sometimes it’s just a few words, or a much needed few hours of babysitting.  Sometimes it’s warm apple crisp, or a cup of sugar.  Sometimes it really is as simple as a smile- an acknowledgment that you know I am here, that you are thinking about me.  To all of you- Thank you.

33 Comments leave one →
  1. May 17, 2010 7:38 pm

    Thinking of you. xo

  2. May 17, 2010 8:42 pm

    Tom and I are both so sad to hear this news. I’m sure you have so many great people near by who have offered help, but my offer still stands. Whatever you need, just let me know. Much love.

  3. Shannon permalink
    May 17, 2010 9:43 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss- and so sad that you are having to go through this right now. Much love to you and your husband- we will keep you in our prayers.

  4. polly permalink
    May 18, 2010 3:10 am

    Sorry to hear of your loss. It is never easy to go thru this. I will put you all in my prayers.

  5. Sara permalink
    May 18, 2010 8:32 am

    Really? So sorry….thinking of you. Love you:)

  6. May 18, 2010 8:59 am

    So sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you and saying a prayer for your family. xo

  7. Jared permalink
    May 18, 2010 9:09 am

    Thanks for letting us know the bad news because I didn’t know.

  8. May 18, 2010 9:50 am

    Oh Erika, bless your heart. I know these things are difficult beyond words, even with the wonderful eternal perspective we are blessed with. I’m thinking about and praying for you.

  9. May 18, 2010 11:27 am

    I love you honey, please let me know what I can do to help you out.


  10. lacey permalink
    May 18, 2010 11:44 am

    i am praying for you guys. love you.

  11. May 18, 2010 11:52 am

    i’m so, so sorry. sending lots of love your way. ❤

  12. May 18, 2010 1:25 pm

    I’m so sorry, Erika. And you’re right, there really is no good way to break bad news. 😦

  13. anya permalink
    May 18, 2010 1:43 pm

    Heard about this last night- so sorry to hear. Sounds like it was pretty sudden. We are thinking of you guys.

  14. May 18, 2010 1:52 pm

    Hugs to you and your family. I wish I was there to make you an apple crisp. Or ricotta cheese with Splenda and cocoa:-)

  15. Jessica permalink
    May 18, 2010 2:32 pm

    I am so sorry you guys are going through this right now. I love you, and I am thinking about you!

  16. Jen permalink
    May 18, 2010 3:30 pm

    We’ll keep you guys in our prayers.

  17. Annie Terry permalink
    May 18, 2010 9:09 pm

    I am so sorry, Erika. I know this must be such a difficult time for you and your family. I wish you well, as well as your husband, as you deal with this loss. I will be thinking about you.

  18. Natalie permalink
    May 18, 2010 11:12 pm

    I’m so sorry Erika. Give Scott our love. You guys are in our prayers. I would love to watch your little cutie anytime. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help. Much love…

  19. Emily permalink
    May 19, 2010 11:23 pm

    I am so sorry about the loss of Scott’s Dad. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  20. May 20, 2010 9:15 am

    So sorry to hear about your loss. Will be thinking about and praying for you and yours.


  21. Liz Merrell permalink
    May 20, 2010 12:24 pm

    E., so sorry. It’s so hard to understand the how’s and why’s of such an event. I guess we can be grateful that we were able to have them in our lives, if only for a short time. It doesn’t make it any easier, of course, but hard things weren’t meant to be easy. Love you.

  22. May 20, 2010 1:45 pm

    i am praying for you and all your family. Much love…

  23. May 20, 2010 4:40 pm

    I’m so sorry!! Our love goes out to your family and Scott!! Our prayers will be with you!!

  24. Rachel permalink
    May 21, 2010 1:24 pm

    I’m so sorry! For both of you. Hang in there. I’m also thankful for prayer and that peace in our hearts that we get only from our Heavenly Father.

    Love you.

  25. May 24, 2010 5:13 pm

    Erika, I’m so sorry. And it’s always so much harder when it’s sudden. Love and prayers for you and your family.


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